It’s terrible to get divorced, but sometimes it’s just not possible to avoid it. For today’s main character, getting a divorce was the only way to save herself and her children. In a letter to us, a woman named Meghan poured out her heart and complained that she had to work hard to support her kids after getting divorced and asked her parents to help her. But all of a sudden, her mother stopped being helpful and got angry about having to watch her daughter’s kids. Now, a woman in a lot of pain is asking our readers for help and advice on how to deal with her difficult family situation in a way that doesn’t hurt anyone.

Meghan looked like she was having a really hard time with her life.

Meghan, who is 27 years old, wrote us a very sad letter that sounded like a real, loud plea for help. This woman is having so many problems and contradictions in her life that she feels like she hasn’t been given any air. And the mom of two finds it most frustrating that the people she cares about most don’t offer any good help or support. Now that her parents are in charge, they are always giving her choices between two bad options. She feels both dependent on them and angry at them for making hard choices for her and her kids.

“My husband and I have been married for 8 years and have two kids, who are 4 and 5 years old,” Meghan began her letter. In the beginning of my relationship with my ex-husband, I saw a lot of warning signs in the way he behaved. But I loved him and relied on him emotionally and financially. I stayed in that marriage because I thought my ex-husband would change, but he never did. This is something that probably a lot of women who are in bad relationships do.

My parents were always the ones who gave me honest feedback about my marriage, and they told me I shouldn’t have kids with that partner right away. They told me not to listen, and I really believed that becoming a dad would make my husband change how he acts. I didn’t feel bad about having two wonderful, amazing children. But my mom always told me that having kids was a burden that I would have to carry alone one day.

When Meghan ran away from her abusive husband, she was left all by herself.

Meghan continues her story by saying, “One day, I couldn’t take my ex’s mean behavior toward me and the kids any longer.” It was becoming very bad for our mental health to stay together, so I had to leave my ex-husband. At that point, he had turned into a real monster—an angry, suspicious, and lazy person who would never help me with the kids but would only tell me what to do.

I moved in with my parents in the end, taking only the kids and their most important things with me. I wasn’t rich or have anything valuable. I was broken, had two kids, and had no money. My parents let me stay with them, didn’t criticize the choices I made in my life, and helped me a lot to get over the trauma of my divorce.

After that, I raised my kids by myself because my ex wouldn’t take care of them, wouldn’t pay child support, and hadn’t shown any interest in seeing or spending time with them since the day I ran away. I didn’t ask or expect him to do anything. I made the strong choice that both kids are mine, that I am both their dad and their mom, and that I would do anything to make enough money to raise them well.

Meghan thought her parents would always be there for her, but she was wrong.

As Meghan continues her story, she says, “So, I spent all my time and energy trying to find a good job that would pay enough to meet all of our financial needs.” I did find a job that was perfect for me. I was going to work from home, so I wouldn’t have to go to the office, and the job itself sounded great to me. This was what I was an expert in, and I was thrilled about the chances that came my way.

Right away, I went to work, and I did a lot of work. The extra work I was given, I took on, and I spent almost all of my time working. I’ve always been most driven by my kids and making sure they have a good life, so I didn’t even feel tired after working 12 hours or more. I began making good money and began setting aside money to buy our own home. My parents watched my kids while I worked, and I also spent time with them when I had time off.

At one point, I thought that things were only getting better. I planned to save enough money in two years of hard work, and all I needed from my parents was help with the kids. I even offered to pay them for this, and they agreed. So I split the bills with them and gave them an extra $500 a month for being babysitters. It was good for everyone, and I was content until my mom decided to ruin my life by breaking all of our agreements.

Meghan’s parents won’t watch her kids and tell her she needs to change her plans.

As Meghan continues her story, she says, “Recently, my mother yelled at me that she’s tired of babysitting all the time.” I was surprised that she started off with such a hostile attitude because she had never been upset before. When I asked her what was wrong, she told me she was sick of me and my kids. She blamed me for giving them life and said again that my kids were a burden on the whole family, including me.

It was so bad that I wished I wasn’t hearing because my mother was being so mean to me. She finally told me I had to change jobs and work part-time because she wasn’t happy with how things were going at that time. She insisted that I work in the office from then on because she thought that was my chance to “make friends and meet a good man.” Besides that, she told me I could only work a certain number of hours per day anywhere from then on.

It shocked and disappointed me when they gave me this sudden ultimatum. My mom knew all of my plans and knew that I wasn’t going to keep working like this. She knew I had a plan and was saving money to make it happen. She knew I had been doing all of that to stay home with my kids, pay for their schooling, and meet all of their other needs. She was tired, though. she told me to change my plans right away and start putting my life back together brick by brick.

Things are very tense in the family right now. All of my mom’s rules and demands are making it hard for me to breathe. I feel like I can’t live without her. What should I do?”